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Estate Planning Q&A Series

How can I tell whether the trustee or agent under power of attorney is properly using trust money for my older relative’s care and best interests? – North Carolina

Short Answer

In North Carolina, the most reliable way to tell whether a trustee or power of attorney agent is using money properly is to look for clear records that match the legal role: separate accounts, consistent documentation, and spending that fits the trust terms and the older relative’s needs. A trustee should be able to show trust statements and a trust accounting; an agent should be able to show receipts, bank records, and a running log of transactions. If records are missing, commingled, or spending looks self-serving, North Carolina law provides tools to demand information and, in serious cases, involve the clerk of superior court or protective services.

Understanding the Problem

In North Carolina estate planning, the decision point is whether the person handling money for an older relative with Alzheimer’s is acting within the authority of a trust and a shared power of attorney, and whether the money is being used for the older relative’s care and best interests. The roles can overlap in real life, but the legal duties differ depending on whether the person is acting as trustee, as agent under power of attorney, or both. The practical question is what information should exist, who is entitled to see it, and what steps are available if the information does not add up.

Apply the Law

North Carolina treats trustees and power of attorney agents as fiduciaries. That means they must handle another person’s money with care, keep good records, and avoid mixing the older relative’s funds with their own. For trusts, the trust document controls what expenses are allowed and who can receive information; for powers of attorney, the document controls what the agent can do and whether co-agents must act together or can act independently. When an older adult is vulnerable, North Carolina also has protective-services and criminal laws aimed at financial exploitation.

Key Requirements

  • Separate money and clear records: Trust funds and the older relative’s funds should be kept separate from the fiduciary’s personal funds, with statements, receipts, and a transaction history that can be reviewed.
  • Spending must match the authority: Payments should fit the trust terms (for a trustee) or the power of attorney powers (for an agent) and should relate to the older relative’s care, support, housing, and legitimate bills.
  • Transparency to the right people: Depending on the role and the document, certain beneficiaries, representatives, or interested persons may request information, and courts can require an accounting when needed.

What the Statutes Say

Analysis

Apply the Rule to the Facts: Here, an older relative with Alzheimer’s lives at home in North Carolina, and authority appears split between a shared power of attorney and a trust administered with help from a trust company. The first check is role clarity: which payments are coming from the trust versus from accounts controlled under the power of attorney. The second check is documentation: each payment should be traceable to a bill or care need, and the fiduciaries should be able to produce statements and records without delay. If the trust company is involved, there should usually be periodic statements and a clear paper trail for distributions and fees.

Process & Timing

  1. Who asks first: An interested family member, beneficiary, or the older relative’s lawful representative (depending on the document). Where: Directly to the trustee/trust company for trust statements and an accounting; directly to the agent(s) for power-of-attorney transaction records. What: A written request for (i) bank/brokerage statements, (ii) a ledger of all transactions, (iii) copies of invoices/receipts, and (iv) an explanation of any caregiver payments, reimbursements, or transfers.
  2. If records are refused or incomplete: Consider a targeted follow-up request that identifies missing months, missing receipts, or specific questionable transactions, and asks for clarification of whether co-agents must act jointly under the shared power of attorney. If the older relative is a disabled adult and there is reasonable cause to suspect exploitation or neglect, a report to the county department of social services (Adult Protective Services) may be appropriate under North Carolina law.
  3. If court involvement is needed: Depending on the legal posture (trust dispute, fiduciary accounting, or guardianship concerns), the matter may go before the clerk of superior court in the county with proper venue. Court tools can include orders requiring an accounting, review of fiduciary compensation in appropriate cases, and (when capacity and safety require it) a guardianship proceeding with court-supervised accountings.

Exceptions & Pitfalls

  • Mixing roles (trustee vs. agent): A common problem is treating “trust money” and “power of attorney money” as interchangeable. In practice, each role should have its own accounts, records, and justification for each payment.
  • Commingling and cash withdrawals: Large cash withdrawals, frequent ATM activity, or reimbursements without receipts are common red flags. North Carolina fiduciary standards generally expect traceable, documented spending.
  • Co-agent confusion: A “shared” power of attorney may require both agents to act together, or it may allow either agent to act alone. Misreading that detail can lead to unauthorized transactions and family conflict.
  • Fee and compensation surprises: Trustees and trust companies often charge fees. The key is whether fees are authorized and properly disclosed. In some cases, North Carolina law provides a specific notice-and-review process for trustee compensation.
  • Waiting too long to escalate: When Alzheimer’s is involved, capacity can decline quickly. If the situation suggests immediate risk to finances or care, delaying can make recovery harder and can increase safety concerns.

Conclusion

In North Carolina, the best way to tell whether a trustee or power of attorney agent is properly using money is to verify (1) the correct role for each transaction, (2) separate accounts and complete records, and (3) spending that matches the trust terms or power-of-attorney authority and supports the older relative’s care. When records are missing or spending appears self-serving, the next step is to make a written request for statements, receipts, and a transaction ledger, and be prepared to seek an accounting through the clerk of superior court if the issue is not resolved promptly.

Talk to a Estate Planning Attorney

If you’re dealing with concerns about whether a trustee or power of attorney agent is using an older relative’s money for proper care and support, our firm has experienced attorneys who can help explain options, request records, and evaluate next steps. Call us today at [919-341-7055].

Disclaimer: This article provides general information about North Carolina law based on the single question stated above. It is not legal advice for your specific situation and does not create an attorney-client relationship. Laws, procedures, and local practice can change and may vary by county. If you have a deadline, act promptly and speak with a licensed North Carolina attorney.

Category: Estate Planning Q&A Series

Author: Pierce Law

Pierce Law Group is a North Carolina law firm focused on probate administration, real estate partition matters, and surplus funds claims across North Carolina. We know these situations often come with stress, family dynamics, and time-sensitive decisions—so we prioritize clear communication, steady guidance, and a practical plan from day one. Our goal is to make a complicated process feel manageable, while protecting what matters most to you.